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Mother, Mother: Open Query Letter and Summary

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As I have told you guys many, many times before that I am currently writing my very intimate memoir about my mothers passing and how its helping my growth as a woman. I have chosen to submit a portion to you guys who are avid supporters of me to show my appreciation to you. 

I'll label this as my Open Query Letter and Summary of my story, if you know any publishers/ agents you would like to forward to, please, I insist!! Thanks again for your support and I hope you find this piece interesting.

Love,

Ashley Leger

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<span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman';">Losing my mother was the best thing that could ever happen to me. <op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op>

Some may ask “How?” or “Why?” I have gotten many dirty looks after I make that comment. Personally, my mother built me to be ready for the greatest loss I many incur. I am choosing to commit my story in writing. My path of struggles with family, pain, deceit, a search for contentment, seeking forgiving and forgiveness that may possibly be a never-ending journey. It is an intimate memoir of a mothers troubles and a daughter’s fight to fix. <op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op>

My mother was diagnosed with cancer in January 2008. By far, this was the most devastating day of my life.  My rock that I could surely stand on was crumbling from under me so quickly. The families that I adored so much were breaking away. Her lifetime of betrayal is beginning to be my triumph. <op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op>

Realizing that my continuing attempt to forgive and be forgiven and the many conflicts with separating love and hate is silent issue for so many. My candid and impartial story of despair, inspiration, and grief. My reality is others’ actuality. <op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op>

I would be honored to have a chapter published in your magazine or website. Thank you for taking the time to consider my idea. <op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op>

Yours sincerely <op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op>

Ashley Leger<op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op>

 

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 "She was the most angelic, beautiful woman I have ever laid my eyes upon.  The type of beauty that flows from the inside and cascades out. Her flaws exposed to all who knew her.  Yet and still poised and preserved.  Such amazing qualities with character constructed by a lifetime of pain, betrayal and deceit.  Countless admirable attributes.  A soul so forgiving that she was made by the Almighty Highest to be a walking angel.  To others, she may have been the least of these. But to me, she was my mother. <op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op>

As a child there were many things that I did not know about my mother.  Things that I was not suppose to know.  As I grew older, the whispers turned to shouts and the tales became truths.  The secrets, the lies, the mistakes, the love, the loss, the deceptions, and the infidelities were beginning to be more existent.  I found the beauty in her weaknesses.  This was my mother who loved me unconditionally.  Who made me everything I am and everything I am is what I will give. This is her story told through the pain of her daughter. <op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op>

January 4th, 2008 was undoubtedly the most devastating day of life.  We found out on that day, that the woman who had never been hospitalized and who never took an aspirin for a headache was dying from a rare form of cancer. The devil entered her body as Cholangiocarcinoma. She suffered antagonizing pain for six months with hope and faith rushing through her veins. Standing on a promise that she will overcome her suffering with a limitless admiration that “I will be okay.” <op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op>

Losing her was the greatest gift.  During her last days, she gave me and abundance of memories that will be cherished for a lifetime. Her lessons could never be taught by any teacher or at any Ivy League University. The permanent thoughts that have been instilled in my heart frequent my mind every day.  My tragedy may be my triumph or it may be my failure. This journey may help me or it could hinder me. My path may lead me to a life of forgiveness or it can lead me to a life of resentment. However, it will lead me to a crossroads that could possibly surmount immeasurable contentment or hatred.<op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op>

My candid emotions are my reality and your fallacy. "<op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op><op></op>

 

posted :
Tuesday, December 01, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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Book Summary

New Beginnings

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I want to take this time and get back to you guys for a minute.

Sorry, its taken so long, but trust, its gonna be worth it. ;)

I have a lot of new projects in the works for 2010 including my own DOTCOM!!

Yes, get your pannies and britches ready cause I'm coming HARD this year!

Look forward to interviews from my fave people including picks for Girl Crush and Hot Choyclate, reviews, more stories and topics, and excerpts from my upcoming memoir

"The Beautiful Tragedy".

I hope that you will follow me through my future endeavor!! We are going many places this year.

I am warning you!

As soon as the my new page is complete this link will forward you there.

posted :
Friday, January 08, 2010 by LatariansAuPair

Not Funny.

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I know I joke and clown about a lot of things, but there are a few things that I find not funny. At All. The things that I may joke about may not be funny to most, but it damn sure is not at the expense of someone else. Majority of my shits and giggles come from life experiences and where normally I am the butt of my own jokes. I am laughing with you people. Life is not THAT serious.

But what I do find serious is Abuse, whether its substance, mental, sexual, emotional, or physical and child welfare. I know there are cruel people in the world, but IMO, the same people who make the guilty and the innocent abuse jokes, are the same ones who can and may commit these crimes. Being that I have been a victim of some abuse, I'd rather not make jokes about the guilty and the innocent. Although I do want the guilty DEAD, I do not find it hilarious to joke about even those dirt-bags.

Same people who laugh at the movie "Precious" are the same people who think that Shanaya Davis and the million other exploited children in the world. There is a difference in being humorous and being human.

posted :
Thursday, December 03, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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Not Funny

Soap Boxes and Sin Sisters (and Brothers)

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Who woulda known that Tiger Woods would inspire me to write 2 (and counting) blog posts in one day? Oh, its hoeshit, that's why!! Anyinfidelity. If y'all haven't parlayed your Oldsmobile Eight Eight through Twitter, I suggest you parallel park y'all asses and join in!!

Unfortunately, those of who I looked up to as my Fuckery Enthusiasts have disappointed me today. With the trending topics from #whymencheat, #whywomencheat, and #sidechickawareness, the innanets is gone nuts today.  So now, those of whom typically talk about people, fuckery, hoeshit, and gossip are now all on the Sanctified bandwagon with all of these morals and values and shit.  Really?

So what if Tiger cheated on his wife? So what if he decides to give her a million bucks to stay? So what if he had bitches across the world? Men cheat, women cheat, and we all have been cheated on. This happens everyday to normal people.  I do have a real issue about a husband giving his wife something that is rightfully hers, but thats here nor there. I also have an issue about this mistress thang. I am no way shape or form to speak against anyone who has been involved in a sitchie-ation like this, but I do have an opinion. So here goes...

When you intentionally begin a relationship with someone like Tiger Woods (Rich, Married, Famous), you have to go in looking for one thing and one thing only: Your Benefit. That benefit being in most cases is "getting paid".  You should not go in that "relationship" looking to be in love. Please, slap yourself if you're looking for anything other. Obviously, these women who are now coming out the woodwork, selling these text messages, voice mails, and pictures to the likes of TMZ and The National Inquirer wanted just that, but now they are going about it in the wrong way. These bitches outta know that Tiger has wayyyy more money than TMZ could ever offer and instead of being paid a semi-monthly "Bitch, shutcho ass up" lifetime check, they'd rather settle for this measly $10,000 fee. And that's if they're getting that. They could careless about Tiger and his family. But Tiger on the other hand, picked the first sluts that would take his "I'm gonna wear you out" text messages and not run. If you wanna begin a relationship, there are plenty of single men/women with money to do so. No, they may not be as giving as Tiger (if he was), but he/she is SINGLE. (Yes, men are involved with married women, too.)  That whore is just like you. Looking for someone to contribute to her/his brand. Give them a step up. Elin was looking for a way out of babysitting, so she got Tiger. Please dont fix your mouthto tell me that she wanted to babysit for the rest of her life. If thats the case she woulda married the plumber who fixed her employers pipes. I aint even wanna babysit after the age of 15.

People who are judging both sides in the situation need to stop. Get off of your soap boxes and act accordingly. Everyone is not perfect. Just because you may not be "bought" in a relationship, I know plenty of men and women who will be. People who consider their time and relationships as a business so, "Fuck you. Pay me." And if you ever say that you wouldn't take a cool million from your significant other-YOU'S A DAMN LIE. Just because you take it, does not mean you have forgiven them. Sheeeeet. I'll take it!! For instance: If you are having premarital sex? Same as being in an adulterous relationship. You gossip? Same as being a mistress. Cheating on your spouse? Don't hate mistresses. Lying that u didn't like your food they served you at Chili's, so you call and they offer you a gift card? You've been bought. Point is: Its all a sin.

 

Do I condone cheating? Nope. Do I condone being involved in adulterous relationships? Nope. But I do believe in being happy and being in love. IMO, people are afraid to do things because of the judgement they may receive. Be it love or just life. No one wants to be looked at in a negative way. But give them one free chance to do something and not be judged, they would be doing the main thing that they judge others for.

Remember: I promote No JUDGEMENT ZONES. So, don't lose your day job on judging me, I do enough of that when I look in the mirror.

posted :
Wednesday, December 02, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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No Judgement Zone

What Color Are You?

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So the big rave around Twitter is Tiger Woods and his whorish ways. The next topic was "Finally a non-black athlete caught cheating." Ok, so when did Tiger become non-black? Even if Tiger doesn't believe he's black, trust and believe the US Census knows Tiger Woods is black.

So know the big question is, how do we classify black/ non-blacks, which, what is exactly a non-black? White? Umm noo. No matter how much we hate to admit it, society will not let mixed race people be white. At all. Even if your father is Mr. Master and your mom is Winnie Mandela. You are black. So i guess we (as in people) are classifying others by the pigmentation of their skin. Yes, this is mostly done by Black People. So, someone could say the same about a light skin person being mixed as to a dark skin person being from Africa? If we are going on what society has taught us, that would be fair, right? No.  I mean who made you whomever for you to classify me in the mixed race category.  I mean, I am not mixed. I am black. Who are you or anybody for me to have to prove my "blackness" to?

You would definitely believe that by being born and raised in the melting pot of the US, Louisiana, that people would be understanding to the concept of "bright skinned blacks" or as they called it on the plantation- High Yellow. They don't. So, yes, I grew up with a complex. Having to answer the question and explain "What makes you black?" or "Why are you so light skin? or Why does your hair lay straight like white folks?. Think about growing up in elementary school where children are the most harsh and makes you believe that you are not black enough, or not white enough. Then growing up in High School in a society, where its no different. Yes, I grew up believing that I was indeed mixed, only wanting to fit in with both sides. After learning that does not work, I went to my Mukka (grandmother) to learn that we are Creole. Not as an ethnicity, but as a culture.  So as I got older, when someone asked me "Whats your nationality?" I do answer black. Then of course they wanted me to explain, and of course I'd say, "Well, I'm from Louisiana. We are Creole.". Did that shut them up? No. Then I was hit with. "Well then you aint black." or "you gotta be something else." I mean, really? In my lifetime, I have been hit with the "Are you's"...

Black?

White?

Mixed?

Indian?

Creole?

Mexican?

Italian?

I have even been told, "i thought you were _____, until you opened your mouth." Speaking on my thick accent. I have even been approached by Hispanics speaking Spanish and when I reply with a "I don't speak Spanish." I'm thrown the evil eye.

 

So who really knows what percentage they are mixed with? Who really says "Oh, I'm 27% asian, 45%white, and 28% black." If i hear this, Imma say "Come on, Son"!!

No i shouldn't have to chose what ethnicity i am, but you definitely don't have that right to chose for me.

Once again, Imma tell all of those who believe to classify light skin people as non-blacks to get off of the plantation.

Wanna read another piece on this same issue? Check out my sis Marikai's post http://black-american-princess-interrupted.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-dont-have-title-for-this-sheeit.html

posted :
Wednesday, December 02, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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ignorance

Movie Review: The Blind Side

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Now, this is a great movie. I know we are all tired of these stories about the white people saving black peoples asses, but damn this is good. Based on a true story of Baltimore Ravens Michael Oher, it really touche dmy heart. Sandra Bullock stole the show with her role as the "faucy" Leigh-Ann Tuey. Please get to the theatre now!!

posted :
Monday, November 30, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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Movie Review

Movie Review: Precious

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I fell into the big hype of Precious and enjoyed every minute of it. I mean I would cry at the sught of the previews. I was scare to read the book first, and I was even scared to see it.  Clarice Precious Jones is a part of my life now.  Although it was only opened it a few cities and theatres, I made my way (me and the HE) to see what everyone was talking about. My boyfriend absolutely hated it (2 snaps in a circle), but me on the other hand cried my contacts out.  For me, it was more personal, due to being in similar situations such as the physical, emotional and mental abuse. Trying to find your way is hard, but I praise everyone involved in this film for showing just that. A Must See!

posted :
Monday, November 30, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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Movie Reviews

Intimidated, much?

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Intimidation. We may also put that into the same category as envy and jealousy. The green-eyed monster has held us captive at some points in our lives, but it all depends on you letting it consume your life. Women and men deal with backbiting on a daily. Be it from a coworker or hell, even a friend. Which is undoubtedly worse.  Work intimidation may lead to sabotage, whilst friendship intimidation can lead to heartbreak and a decision to lose someone special in your life.

Most people who are intimidated by others normally don't express this due to the fact of being labeled a "hater" (ugh) and "jealous". The most common response to that is "jealous of what?". Come on now. If you are intimidated by Whitney Houston when you have the voice of Cassie...then yes, you have a reason. But don't let that stop you from achieving. There is enough success out there in the world for everyone to have.

You can be intimidated by all or absolutely nothing about a person. It could just be the self hate in you. I know plenty of people who are intimidated by the success of another, a garment, money, looks, or shit, just any damn thang. Some are still living on that plantation where lightskin and darkskin either sleeps in the trundle or hay.  Channel your energy somewhere else and not anywhere near me.

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What they may not realize that being associated with success is motivating. A note to those who are successful: please help those others. No need to hog the limelight. You never know who you may need and who may help you to become more successful in whatever it is that you do. I love to be associated with successful, intelligent and beautiful people and I count it an honor for my friends to feel the same about me.  I mean, who really wants to hang around a group of weedheads, hoes, and broke ass people? Uh, Uh. I am too selective.

I am generally a nice and sweet person. No need to be intimidated by me. I am a regla human being. I am willing to help when the call is made (in time). I can be mean, hateful, and funny acting. But dont judge. I have enough of that to do on my own.

posted :
Wednesday, November 18, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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You So Deep

Book Launch

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Join us (yes, me and the Authoress and the rest of the Divas) for Ms. Dokes' book launch party this Friday, in midtown Houston, TX!! Check out the flyer and www.divadishes.com to order your copy today!!!!

posted :
Monday, November 16, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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Book Reviews

More to come...

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Once again, I would like to thank you guys for the support on my blog. With that being said, I will start adding more categories to my blog. Look at what's next!!

Movie Reviews

Restaurant Reviews

Fashion Do's and Don'ts

Book Reviews

Reader Submitted Posts

Business Reviews

Just know that my Fashion Do's and Don'ts will feature real, regular people. Watch out. The streets is watching!

If you want to advertise your services on my site, please forward to legerashley@yahoo.com

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posted :
Friday, November 13, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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New Look

SICK.EH.NINGAH.

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WHAT-IN-THE-FUGGG.

Most of you know that CLs are most def my fave shoe (mostly to look at). He comes with the sickest, most nastiest designs ever. Get a load of this.

If someone buys me these, I promise you wont have to worry about gifting me til 2011. Please and Thank you. =)

posted :
Friday, November 13, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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Shoe Fetish

Heathens and Jezebels

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While at work yesterday, I noticed a coworker wearing a Rosary. Me being a devout Catholic, I immediately questioned "Is your rosary blessed?". My response was just a head nod. Cool. I do not know the religious background of this character, nor did I care to ask at that time, but it did get my wheels spinning.

I have been noticing many jewelry pieces being worn by many, many people and I'm like, "Damn, I aint seen all these black people in a Catholic church all my life." Damn shame, I know. And half of them can't even tell you 1 of the 20 Mysteries of the Rosary.

Now, I do not at all claim to be a Saint nor "Holy than Thou", but I do believe strongly in my Catholic devotions and sacrements.  I have worn a scalpular since December 2007, when my mother fell ill and out entire family got them blessed by Father Joseph of Sacred Heart in Lake Charles, La. I wear this 24/7, even when it does not "match" anything that I am wearing. It is not meant to match your garments, its meant for worship. I firmly stand on my opinion that if you do not believe in the Prayer of the Rosary you shouldnt be donning rosary beads or a scalpular. I see this as being disrespectful.

I hate even discussing religion because there are so many views and honestly I find it dispectful and tasteless to question someone elses religious beliefs, so understand I am not arguing, I am stating my opinion.

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"Wearing of a Rosary that one actually uses to pray is neither uncommon nor sacrilegious in various Roman Catholic-adherent cultures and was a common practice in the Medieval and Renaissance periods, particularly among religious (monks, nuns, and friars). Rosaries are also worn hanging from or looped over a belt, particularly with some religious habits, pinned to and hanging from a shoulder or neckline, or wrapped around a wrist or arm as a bracelet. Some Christians feel that it is sacrilegious for a non-believer to wear a rosary around the neck. This is particularly true in Roman Catholic cultures that have histories of persecution, particularly among the Irish and English Catholics. Because Irish Catholic tradition is often seen as normative in the United States and Canada, this has been the source of some conflict in the past. The Roman Catholic Church states: "Sacred objects, set aside for divine worship by dedication or blessing, are to be treated with reverence. They are not to be made over to secular or inappropriate use, even though they may belong to private persons".[55] Thus it is acceptable to wear a rosary if one is doing so to show veneration, however it is not acceptable if one is wearing the rosary irreverently, such as wearing it as a piece of jewelry. Many saints have worn their rosary around the neck, and in the Secret of the Rosary, it is mentioned that a person put his rosary around his neck to keep devils away from him.<op></op><op></op>

Rosaries or rosary-like necklaces are often worn for non-religious purposes as a fashion or jewelry item, and are sold in different variations in popular jewelry and clothing stores. Such ornamental use, especially the wearing of a rosary around the neck, was heavily popularized by singer Madonna in the early 1980s and has experienced a come-back in recent years. Wearing a rosary around the neck can be considered disrespectful if the person wearing it does not affiliate with the Christian religion. Ornate or medieval-style rosary sets are occasionally featured in goth fashion."

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posted :
Friday, November 13, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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IMO

Lace (not Fronts)

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I've been seeing chicks running 'round Houston looking like an extra from a Vanity 6 video shoot with all this lace on. Some cute, some well...Uh uh. Lace is the new fall trend and since I tend to stay away from those as much as possible, I might fall into the dress that my fave Jezebel Kim K. is sporting. And that lace headband...Hot!

posted :
Friday, November 13, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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style

Fall Staples

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These are my basic fall staples. Basically, the items that are currently dangling in my closet patiently waiting to be worn. My basic weekend wear is leggings (footless, footed, or stirrup), boots (flat or high), knit sweaters, ginormous accessories, mini dresses and such. Take note.

posted :
Thursday, November 12, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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Fashion

Debonair

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*changes panties* WOOOOOO!! LAWD!!! Pharrell Williams is the truth y'all. My Gawd. He shoulda been a Hot Choyclate post a looooong time ago. Interesting enough, Pharrell is one of the few artists I have not come in contact with, which is prolly a good thang for him. I sure I would break his bones, but we would enjoy the ride. =)

posted :
Wednesday, November 11, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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Fly Guys

This Never Gets Old

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We have all been on if not one, then both of the sides when it comes to cheating in relationships. Either you have done the cheating or have been cheated on. Sometimes, its both sides. We all know what comes with it. Embarrassment. Nothing is worse than praising your significant other only to be bashed with his/her cheating ways.  I would have rather to have walked around town wearing white pants after Labor Day with a huge blood stain on my ass. Seriously. After knowing that you had done everything possible to satisfy this person, they had gone to be satisfied elsewhere.  Years ago, during my first relationship, I suffered severe depression and anxiety behind a boy and his doggish ways. Only to find that he was not only doggish to me, but also in his current relationship. Though some may not believe, there is always proof somewhere. My mom gave me some knowledge that I will keep til I die. She said to me "No matter how much you give to that man. All the love, sex, food, trust, forgiveness, and all of you, there is nothing that can stop that man from doing what he wants. If he wants to entertain someone else. He will. If he wants to have sex with someone else he will. There is nothing that you can give or do for that man that will stop him. Goes the same for you." She was the truth, y'all. I take that with me in all relationships. You can cheat, and I have either accept it and move on with or without you. If I accept it and move on with you, the hardest part is letting it go. Meaning, not throwng it in your face every other day and in every arguement.  Believe it or not, friendships are the same. Sometimes you may feel as if your closest friend is "cheating" on you with another. Please. People do carry on different relationships with each person. Unfortunately trust is something hard to gain back from me. Honestly, I do not forgive easily, nor do I ever forget. I can continue a strained relationship with someone because I genuinely care for them, but trusting them is totally different. 

We all cheat. That is depending on what you considering "Cheating". 

 

 

So, for the age old question... Once a cheater always a cheater?

posted :
Wednesday, November 11, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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Relationship Poll

The Baddest: Tracee Ellis Ross

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YASSSS! JOAN CARROL CLAYTON SERVES (FAT) ASS ON A HOT PLATTER! And I will eat all she dishes!! Bitch is Fine and Bad. She is indeed my fashion icon and I don't use that word loosely. That shape. That hair. The lips. That ass. The EYES. I am a fan of big eyes, I have a pair myself. Tracee has been sporting garments way before they were the new "trend". For example: the Harem pant. Bitch please, Tracee did this in like 2004. The over the knee boot. 2002. Red lipstick. Out the Womb. Come on! Her mother is Diana Ross for God sake!!

I do like to think that I possess some of the same style as Miss Ellis-Ross. She get it from her mama.

He knows how much I wanted to see Joan marry Aaron, or hell anybody woulda been fine. But for now, I'll just continue to google check Joan everyday.

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Tuesday, November 10, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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I Am...Not

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I am so sorry to disappoint, but I am not a gossip site. I am barely a site if it wasn't for On-Sugar for giving me the freeopportunity to blog my bullshit. Don't get me wrong, I did think about dabbling in celeb gossip, but hell, I'd rather spend my time and energy talkin' bout regla folk. Besides, there are wayyy to many who deal with that diarrhea. But then, the homie Durty Mo handles that over at YKYDAW.  So I decided to waste all 20 of y'all time with my thoughts. Some are worth millions, but most are just worth pennies. *shrugs*

Hot Choyclate (Warm Milk): Daliy posts to make you moist in your bad places.

Girl Crush: (I am a confident woman, I am able to compliment another without questioning my sexuality. ) Daily posts to make your soldiers march.

Fashion: I love fashion, but Fashion will not consume my life, nor my vocabulary.

Quotes: Random nonsense to share.

Etc: Whatever I want. POW!

 

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Saturday, November 07, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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I AM...not

Rain, Rain...Come On!!!

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If I could get those frog booties, I swear I want it to rain everyday!! They are so adorable, not to mention frogs are my fave. I purchased my first pair of rainboots a few weeks ago. Zebra Print and they are HOT!

Just think of the rainboot as the new Ugg boot. Get some and get used to them. They have been out for ages and they are no longer meant just for the man cleaning the boats. With so many designs, how can you not want?

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Saturday, November 07, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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Bad Bitch. Bad Price.

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Ack like you know. The Bitch is the Baddest. Here she is sporting this bad "come fuck me" dress for the EMA after party. She was escorted by her husband, but ehhh, he's in his usual so I decided to crop him out. She needs the spotlight. ALWAYS.

I tried my hardest, but you can never come close to the shit that Bey serves, so....

(pic via www.necolebitchie.com, cropped by me =))

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Saturday, November 07, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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Bad Price, Bad Bitch

Girl Crush

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Yes. Yes. We return with a Girl Crush. Todays Girl Crush is Rosa Acosta. Most known for her splits in the "Best I Ever Had" vid for Wheelchair Jimmy Drake.

The exact quote for the reader is "Girl Crush: Rosa Acosta! Bitch is Bilingual, Flexible, and Caliente!". Yes indeed. iAgree. POW!

 

 

 

 

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Friday, November 06, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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Letting Go of Expectations

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Every once in a while, I like to get deep on y'all. You know. Express my inner-most thoughts. Well today is the day. This is something that I find if you let go, you probably will lead a more happier life.

Stop expecting anything from anyone but yourself. Once you stop expecting things from people, you wont allow yourself to be hurt when something doesnt happen the way you think it should. Its really simple, but complex. I am learning that expecting nothing from my boyfriend will lead me to less grief and more happiness. If I stop expecting my friends to do things for me that I would do for them, I would be a lot more social with them. If I stop expecting my daddy to continue to srink, maybe one day he will surprise me and stop.

I let a lot of people go in my social circle in 2009 and I dont feel bad about it at all. Hell some of them, I would rather act as if they fell off the face of the earth than to think of fake times with them.

Less stress, people. I am not taking y'all janky asses with me in 2010.

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Friday, November 06, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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Hot Choyclate

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Damn its been a minute, and oooo weee.... I needed this one *clutches pearls*. Introducing Darrin Sharper. For those of you who don't know him, he plays for the Saints. What position? Hell if I know. A good position would be behind me, but that has nothing to do with football.

Feast your eyes and change your panties right along with me. =)

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Friday, November 06, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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Pennies vs Quarters: Mens Edition

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The Fellas have a different way of handling their money than women. Let's see what they spend the money they claim they never have for you.

 

Men: What would you rather spend your quarters on?

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Thursday, November 05, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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Pennies vs Quarters

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We can all play the penny machines, but can we all play the quarters? Tell the truth. You are never excited to find a penny or nickel on the ground, but woooo chile, when you find that quarter you in bad business!!

Pennies vs Quarters will be polling what you intend to pay for certain items. I would rather spend big bucks on my shoes than a bag. To each its own.

 

What do you (women) rather spend you hard earned money on?

 

posted :
Thursday, November 05, 2009 by LatariansAuPair

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fashion polls