Intimidation. We may also put that into the same category as envy and jealousy. The green-eyed monster has held us captive at some points in our lives, but it all depends on you letting it consume your life. Women and men deal with backbiting on a daily. Be it from a coworker or hell, even a friend. Which is undoubtedly worse.  Work intimidation may lead to sabotage, whilst friendship intimidation can lead to heartbreak and a decision to lose someone special in your life.

Most people who are intimidated by others normally don't express this due to the fact of being labeled a "hater" (ugh) and "jealous". The most common response to that is "jealous of what?". Come on now. If you are intimidated by Whitney Houston when you have the voice of Cassie...then yes, you have a reason. But don't let that stop you from achieving. There is enough success out there in the world for everyone to have.

You can be intimidated by all or absolutely nothing about a person. It could just be the self hate in you. I know plenty of people who are intimidated by the success of another, a garment, money, looks, or shit, just any damn thang. Some are still living on that plantation where lightskin and darkskin either sleeps in the trundle or hay.  Channel your energy somewhere else and not anywhere near me.

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What they may not realize that being associated with success is motivating. A note to those who are successful: please help those others. No need to hog the limelight. You never know who you may need and who may help you to become more successful in whatever it is that you do. I love to be associated with successful, intelligent and beautiful people and I count it an honor for my friends to feel the same about me.  I mean, who really wants to hang around a group of weedheads, hoes, and broke ass people? Uh, Uh. I am too selective.

I am generally a nice and sweet person. No need to be intimidated by me. I am a regla human being. I am willing to help when the call is made (in time). I can be mean, hateful, and funny acting. But dont judge. I have enough of that to do on my own.

Join us (yes, me and the Authoress and the rest of the Divas) for Ms. Dokes' book launch party this Friday, in midtown Houston, TX!! Check out the flyer and www.divadishes.com to order your copy today!!!!

Once again, I would like to thank you guys for the support on my blog. With that being said, I will start adding more categories to my blog. Look at what's next!!

Movie Reviews

Restaurant Reviews

Fashion Do's and Don'ts

Book Reviews

Reader Submitted Posts

Business Reviews

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While at work yesterday, I noticed a coworker wearing a Rosary. Me being a devout Catholic, I immediately questioned "Is your rosary blessed?". My response was just a head nod. Cool. I do not know the religious background of this character, nor did I care to ask at that time, but it did get my wheels spinning.

I have been noticing many jewelry pieces being worn by many, many people and I'm like, "Damn, I aint seen all these black people in a Catholic church all my life." Damn shame, I know. And half of them can't even tell you 1 of the 20 Mysteries of the Rosary.

Now, I do not at all claim to be a Saint nor "Holy than Thou", but I do believe strongly in my Catholic devotions and sacrements.  I have worn a scalpular since December 2007, when my mother fell ill and out entire family got them blessed by Father Joseph of Sacred Heart in Lake Charles, La. I wear this 24/7, even when it does not "match" anything that I am wearing. It is not meant to match your garments, its meant for worship. I firmly stand on my opinion that if you do not believe in the Prayer of the Rosary you shouldnt be donning rosary beads or a scalpular. I see this as being disrespectful.

I hate even discussing religion because there are so many views and honestly I find it dispectful and tasteless to question someone elses religious beliefs, so understand I am not arguing, I am stating my opinion.

This is an article I picked up over at wikipedia:

"Wearing of a Rosary that one actually uses to pray is neither uncommon nor sacrilegious in various Roman Catholic-adherent cultures and was a common practice in the Medieval and Renaissance periods, particularly among religious (monks, nuns, and friars). Rosaries are also worn hanging from or looped over a belt, particularly with some religious habits, pinned to and hanging from a shoulder or neckline, or wrapped around a wrist or arm as a bracelet. Some Christians feel that it is sacrilegious for a non-believer to wear a rosary around the neck. This is particularly true in Roman Catholic cultures that have histories of persecution, particularly among the Irish and English Catholics. Because Irish Catholic tradition is often seen as normative in the United States and Canada, this has been the source of some conflict in the past. The Roman Catholic Church states: "Sacred objects, set aside for divine worship by dedication or blessing, are to be treated with reverence. They are not to be made over to secular or inappropriate use, even though they may belong to private persons".^[55] Thus it is acceptable to wear a rosary if one is doing so to show veneration, however it is not acceptable if one is wearing the rosary irreverently, such as wearing it as a piece of jewelry. Many saints have worn their rosary around the neck, and in the Secret of the Rosary, it is mentioned that a person put his rosary around his neck to keep devils away from him.

Rosaries or rosary-like necklaces are often worn for non-religious purposes as a fashion or jewelry item, and are sold in different variations in popular jewelry and clothing stores. Such ornamental use, especially the wearing of a rosary around the neck, was heavily popularized by singer Madonna in the early 1980s and has experienced a come-back in recent years. Wearing a rosary around the neck can be considered disrespectful if the person wearing it does not affiliate with the Christian religion. Ornate or medieval-style rosary sets are occasionally featured in goth fashion."

What do you think?

I am so sorry to disappoint, but I am not a gossip site. I am barely a site if it wasn't for On-Sugar for giving me the freeopportunity to blog my bullshit. Don't get me wrong, I did think about dabbling in celeb gossip, but hell, I'd rather spend my time and energy talkin' bout regla folk. Besides, there are wayyy to many who deal with that diarrhea. But then, the homie Durty Mo handles that over at YKYDAW.  So I decided to waste all 20 of y'all time with my thoughts. Some are worth millions, but most are just worth pennies. *shrugs*

Hot Choyclate (Warm Milk): Daliy posts to make you moist in your bad places.

Girl Crush: (I am a confident woman, I am able to compliment another without questioning my sexuality. ) Daily posts to make your soldiers march.

Fashion: I love fashion, but Fashion will not consume my life, nor my vocabulary.

Quotes: Random nonsense to share.

Etc: Whatever I want. POW!

Yes. Yes. We return with a Girl Crush. Todays Girl Crush is Rosa Acosta. Most known for her splits in the "Best I Ever Had" vid for Wheelchair Jimmy Drake.

The exact quote for the reader is "Girl Crush: Rosa Acosta! Bitch is Bilingual, Flexible, and Caliente!". Yes indeed. iAgree. POW!

Every once in a while, I like to get deep on y'all. You know. Express my inner-most thoughts. Well today is the day. This is something that I find if you let go, you probably will lead a more happier life.

Stop expecting anything from anyone but yourself. Once you stop expecting things from people, you wont allow yourself to be hurt when something doesnt happen the way you think it should. Its really simple, but complex. I am learning that expecting nothing from my boyfriend will lead me to less grief and more happiness. If I stop expecting my friends to do things for me that I would do for them, I would be a lot more social with them. If I stop expecting my daddy to continue to srink, maybe one day he will surprise me and stop.

I let a lot of people go in my social circle in 2009 and I dont feel bad about it at all. Hell some of them, I would rather act as if they fell off the face of the earth than to think of fake times with them.

Less stress, people. I am not taking y'all janky asses with me in 2010.

Damn its been a minute, and oooo weee.... I needed this one *clutches pearls*. Introducing Darrin Sharper. For those of you who don't know him, he plays for the Saints. What position? Hell if I know. A good position would be behind me, but that has nothing to do with football.

Feast your eyes and change your panties right along with me. =)

Thanks for all of the support! Blogging is not as easy as it looks and if you're not completely focused, you can't do shit! What I do is not much but it makes me smile for the moment and it gives me more confidence to continue on my journey. I support many blogs and I would think that I would get the same love from others, but eh...whatevs. I don't do this for views, cuzzum I don't make no money off this.

 So, in the meantime I want you to divert your attention to WWW.QUEENROSA.BLOGSPOT.COM.

My dear friend, and author of Diva Dishes (www.divadishes.comOrder now!!), Rosa brainstormed on a blog about women giving each other compliments to boost confidence. This is a huge problem we face in our community not just as black women, but all women. No need to be jealous, or only spark up a conversation just based on someones material possessions...be nice, it pays off.

Nominate your Queen of the Week to queenrosablog@gmail.com